The days when finding a partner was a matter of pure romantic serendipity are long gone. In the digital age, anyone interested in locating that special someone has a ton of online options.
So here at adulino.com we decided to see what the odds are that you can find a life partner online, by analyzing data and working alongside a team of experts from the dating industry.
A recent study in the US showed 20% of men and 13% of women had found a romantic partner online. That means the actual odds for men are 4/1 (5.0) and for women about 6/1 (7.0).
However, the flipside is that nearly half – 40% of men and 41% of women – had been unsuccessful in their search. Finding your soulmate used to be a matter of art, and the fact it can now be done via science isn’t to everyone’s taste.
“The old purpose of dating apps was to be a tool that allowed two people to be introduced”. “Unfortunately, that concept has changed over time, and now some people never even get to the meeting point of the process, leaving them stuck swiping forever.”
We want the convenience of having plenty of choice, but at the same time the romance of meeting someone naturally and growing a rapport in the old-fashioned way. The key to dating success both online and offline is finding someone who wants what you want and there is a mutual belief you have found it in each other.
What can go wrong?
As Shakespeare wrote, the course of true love never did run smooth. But even the Bard in all his wisdom could not have foreseen the kind of issues that all too many users of online dating suffer.
Nearly half, 42%, of female respondents to a recent survey said they had been contacted in a way that made them feel uncomfortable. Almost as many women, 39%, had had to report or block someone, while 32% had been sent inappropriate pictures.
Intriguingly, more men than women – 38% to 32% – had found out someone had lied about their identity. This is known as “catfishing”, one of many terms from online dating that have now become common parlance.
How to identify a catfisher:
When you talk on the phone, the connection is poor. Scammers rarely give out a legitimate phone number. Instead they’ll use VoIP (voice over internet protocol), which is routed through a Wi-Fi connection instead of cell towers.
They’re ridiculously good-looking and have an impressive career. […] A reverse image search could reveal the truth.
They call you “dear” or “sweetie” up front. Using pet names right away could indicate that a scammer is trying to hastily forge an emotional connection.
So why do people do it?
It’s interesting, and heart-warming, to learn that the most popular reason why people in the USA use online dating sites is still the old-fashioned one.
“To find an exclusive romantic partner” was the top choice for both men and women surveyed recently. That was the answer given by more than half of women, 51%, and by 47% of men.
The second most popular reason among both sexes was “to have something fun/interesting to do”.
However, three times as many men as women admitted they did it “to have casual sex” – 33% to 11%.
And kudos for honesty to the 8% of men and 6% of women who use online dating “to cheat on my significant other”.
However, it is worth contrasting the high percentage of those respondents who say they are looking for a life partner with the actual results (see above).
Only 20% of men and 13% of women said they had actually found a romantic partner online.
The search goes on…